Advice for dating a man with a child
“I know it’s against your nature,” she said,”but when it comes to his kids, be a cat, not a dog.
You’re going to want to hug them and bond with them, but it’ll be better if you relax and hang back. I had already fallen in love with their father, so what would I do if they didn’t like me? David and I both grew up in Northridge, both completed graduate and undergraduate degrees at UCLA, had friends in common from college and recently discovered that my cousin was his childhood music teacher.
The first time I attended a school play, David’s daughter came out after the show.
I wanted to run over and hug her, give her the flowers we brought, congratulate her on a good performance — until I saw her mom and realized that my desires were tertiary.
The span of time between their respective ages never seems to really matter, as long as they are older.For now, I’m just available, playful in my own way, and practicing patience. Affairs chronicles the current dating scene in and around Los Angeles. The author lives in Encino and is a lecturer with UCLA Writing Programs. If you have comments or a true story to tell, email us at [email protected] I had become accustomed to our time alone: picnics at the Hollywood Bowl and the Greek Theatre, decadent meals at Black Market Liquor Bar and Gjelina, ocean-side walks in Santa Monica.
He gave me tennis lessons and I dragged him to yoga class. But my favorite thing was always cuddling on the couch and talking.
They bicker and I remain silent, allowing him to parent as he sees fit.