Dating for 4 years and no proposal
Right and he's said he loves you, he will propose -- sometimes in a matter of a few months but usually within 15 months.(He may have his own rules about dating for four seasons before popping the question, and there's nothing wrong with that.)Don't Break These Rules Following The Rules means letting him pursue you -- not seeing him more than two or three times a week, refusing to go away with him on weeklong vacations, and not moving in with him or crowding him in any way.All of the above should make him anxious to propose. Ask him when -- and if it's more than a year away, see less of him and think about dating others.A man who is wary of commitment is made less wary by a woman moving away from, not toward, commitment. You've already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose. If you are already living together and he says he doesn't want to become engaged, make plans to move out.Hi there, I can’t seem to get something off my mind and it’s affecting my relationship.My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. All year long and got my hopes up :'( Now I feel so resentful and every week or so I make a hint at it and he won’t communicate about it and it leaves me angry, confused, and very hurt.We're in the same city now, but we've only been able to be a grown-up couple dealing with grown-up couple situations for a short time.I've known I wanted to marry since I met her; it's never been a matter of commitment.
After the first 7 months or so, he brought up that he wanted to marry me (it wasn’t a proposal, though, just speaking thoughts). (I thought oh watch, he will wait till the very last day of the year). All my friends and coworkers asked to see my left hand and I said there wasn’t a proposal and they all acted surprised because it was our second vacation together at the ocean and they all thought it was gonna happen. It’s eating away at me after the vacation and I got upset about it. I am starting to shift how I feel about him because he’s making me wait and it’s been over 2 years now when he originally brought it up in the first few months.
I had been feeling/thinking that I wanted to marry him also, but I had never brought it up before so I was really excited he said something about it first. I got excited and joked oh so when is that gonna happen? I bring it up every couple weeks because we will see it on tv or our friends get engaged or it’s all over FB. October we took another vacation, a year after our first vacation. He said maybe he was waiting till Christmas because it’s my favorite time of year (of course he would tell me in January it will be this year and then wait till December to do it). I feel like I’m running out of time with my biological clock.
A couple months later we took a vacation and he planned out this dinner at a restaurant with an amazing view of the city and mountains behind it. He kept asking me to figure out when sunset would be so we could walk along the beach during that time. Then New Year’s rolls around and still no proposal happened. I don’t want kids this very second, but even if we got engaged today, it takes about a year or more to plan, then I wanted to be married and without kids for at least a year or 2, and at that time I’ll be in my 30s and I already have health issues that will make it more difficult to get pregnant as it is, I feel like I’m wasting precious time waiting around for something that may never come. I don’t know how to let it go so he feels unpressured! He has told me he already knows he wants to be with me but.. He brushes it off and tells me he just hasn’t gotten around to planning anything.
He seemed kinda nervous so I was kinda thinking this was it! I had booked an event for the next day for something he’s wanted to do his entire life as a little boy and I thought maybe this would be perfect, he would get to live out his dream and it would be a perfect setting on ocean water. Vacation ended and no proposal and I thought damn, this would’ve been perfect.
You've heard what makes guys propose, now hear this: I interviewed some great guys I know to find out why they're not proposing to their long-term girlfriends. Could one of these factors be holding your man back?
If anything, I've been waiting five years to be in the same state just to make sure that it's something we both wanted.